Why plastic surgery causes jealousy in husbands
I have written in the past on the psychological effects of plastic surgery and specifically cosmetic plastic surgery.
Over the last few weeks though I have seen two husbands who reminded me that cosmetic surgery effects the partner of the patient as much as the cosmetic patients themselves.
Reasons for jealousy in partners of plastic surgery patients
There are a number of reasons that a plastic surgery patient’s partner may become jealous .
1. Fear of being dumped
The most common reason for being jealous of plastic surgery patients is the fear of the patient’s partner of being dumped. I have had several patient’s husbands ask me just that. ” Doc, how many women get a breast augmentation and then move out and leave their husbands?”
There are obviously some serious problems of self-confidence in these chaps if they feel that the only reason a woman is staying with them is because she has small breasts. Still you would be surprised at the number of men who think like that- and rightfully so!
After a breast augmentation or any cosmetic surgery for that matter, a patient’s self confidence is markedly improved. Patients will stand taller, smile more, be more outgoing etc. That new state of psyche obviously makes people react to the patient differently and, if there were any problems in a relationship to begin with, it just might be enough to push the patient to realize the dud they are with and move on to better things.
2. Fear of partner looking too good
Another set of fears for plastic surgery partners is related to the fear of being dumped but takes the form of possessiveness. Some people are jealous if their partners are attracting too much attention. They fear that if their wife has bigger breasts they will attract too much ogling and that makes them uncomfortable. These are people who are again not confident enough in themselves to allow their partners to wear anything but a sac and cover their heads with a bag.
The subject comes most commonly when discussing sizes for breast implants. All husbands of this type will tell the patients to choose smaller breast implants while the other types of husbands will go for “the bigger the better” size of implants. It is the patient who must make the decision about the size of implants and others point of view is guidance and nothing else!
In summary there are multiple reasons for cosmetic plastic surgery patients’ partners to become jealous of the newly found self- confidence that their partners achieve after plastic surgery.
The normal, balanced, happy, confident partner is one who supports the decisions of their spouse in cosmetic surgery, is there to be of help during the recovery period and is there to benefit from the improved outlook on life that their spouse has.
By the same token, plastic surgery patients should realize that just changing their bodies through surgery will not solve all of life’s problems and may make relationship issues come to a boil.